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Final Divorce Order

Divorce involves a lot of really important decisions. Which means that—between dividing property, divvying up child custody, and figuring out mortgages (not to mention, family pets)—you’ll have a lot to keep track of, post-divorce. 

Luckily, there’s one document that’ll have all the answers: your final divorce order. 

A final divorce order is a legal document containing all of the decisions made during your divorce. Once approved by your judge, these terms are non-negotiable, and are fully enforceable under California law. 

Here’s what you need to know about final divorce orders in California, and how Maples Family Law can help you get the best results possible. 

 

What is a Final Divorce Order?

In California, a final divorce order (or “divorce decree”) is a document that formally ends your marriage, and is something you’ll receive at the conclusion of your divorce proceedings. 

Not to be confused with a “divorce certificate” (which merely acts as proof of your marital dissolution), a divorce decree is a judicial order that contains a summary of all the decisions made during your divorce, including all of the rights and responsibilities that will govern your post-divorce life.

Since every divorce is different, no two final orders will look exactly the same. However, some of the items that may be addressed in your final order could include: 

Since a decree is essentially just a summary of your divorce negotiations, these terms shouldn’t surprise you. (If they do, then you should probably notify your attorney, immediately). 

Exactly how much control you have in deciding these terms can actually vary significantly, however, depending on what type of divorce you choose.  

 

Divorce Types and Divorce Orders

There are some things about a divorce order that are simply non-negotiable (such as child support minimums, which are set by California law, and can’t be messed with). But there are other areas that you and your spouse can exert control over—some more than others, depending on how well you’re able to communicate—and the type of divorce you choose. 

Here’s a closer look. 

 

Uncontested Divorce

In California, the fastest way to a final divorce order is through an uncontested divorce

In this type of divorce, both spouses agree on all the major terms of their breakup, and, with nothing left to “fight” about, these couples can achieve a split by simply compiling their terms into a “marital settlement agreement.” 

To be valid, this agreement must be signed by both parties, and should address your collective decisions about property, alimony, and children (if applicable). At your hearing, a judge will review this paperwork, and incorporate the terms into a final divorce order (so long as your arrangement is fair to both sides). 

Although it’s the most direct path to a final divorce order—and offers the most control—this type of divorce generally only works for short marriages, those with very little property and no children.   

 

Divorce Mediation 

The next best thing to an uncontested divorce route, is through divorce mediation. 

Divorce mediation is an informal negotiation process that takes place outside of court, and is sometimes required if you have children. These meetings are supervised by a neutral, third party “mediator,” who acts as a referee, and helps couples reach a settlement without need of a judge.

If successful, the agreement you reach will be codified into a settlement agreement, and submitted to the court for review (much like in an uncontested divorce). In order to be binding, this document must be signed by both parties, and—for best results—should be overseen (and approved) by your trusted family law attorney.

A judge will review this agreement at your hearing, and—so long as it meets certain requirements (such as state child support minimums)—these terms will be incorporated into a final divorce order. 

Another alternative dispute method you might try is collaborative divorce. However, if neither of these options work, you’ll have to proceed on to a divorce trial. 

 

Divorce Litigation

Not only is litigation the longest route to a final divorce order, it’s also the least loved. This is because it’s—by far—the most expensive and time consuming of all divorces. In addition, this path offers couples the least amount of control over their final outcome, and is the most stressful and emotionally draining.  

In a divorce trial, both sides gather evidence, which will be presented to the court in an attempt to sway a judge one way or the other. Each and every issue—from property to alimony—must be settled this way. And, at the end of this laborious process, you are presented with a final divorce order that consists of decisions you had very little say in making.  

Hence, we suggest avoiding this route, if at all possible.

 

Enforcing a Final Divorce Order

You may not like them, however, once finalized, the terms of your final divorce order are non-negotiable. In California, divorce orders are fully enforceable, and failure to comply can result in some fairly hefty financial and/or legal consequences. 

Some of these consequences could include wage garnishments, fines, liens, arrests, jail time, and even contempt of court (a serious criminal charge that will go on an offender’s permanent record). 

Before you head back to court, however, try talking to your ex, first. Oftentimes, noncompliance is a result of a simple understanding, or else vague terms that need clarification, and can be resolved without judicial interference. 

If there are legitimate reasons things aren’t working, talk to your attorney about modifying your order. As a general rule, contempt of court should always be a last-ditch resort. 

 

Do You Need Help Finalizing Your California Divorce?

Divorce orders have a huge impact on post-divorce life. This document will govern important financial decisions, influence family dynamics, and affect you for years to come—even into retirement. Which is why it’s so important to make sure it’s drafted correctly, the first time around.  

If you have more questions about final divorce orders in California, we want to hear from you. Call the Maples Family Law team at (209) 989-4425, or get in touch online, and let us help you negotiate the best terms possible.

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How to Start Your Divorce

In the beginning, you weren’t thinking about the end. Beyond the blur of wedding bells, rings, and gifts, the future was bright; full of hope and possibility. Sure, the details weren’t filled in, yet, but the important parts were: the picture of both of you, together, taking on the world.

Now you’re sitting here staring at the ruins of your relationship, wondering what went wrong, and what you’re even supposed to do to prepare for divorce.

The good news is, that—while dealing with divorce might feel impossible in the moment—the future is still bright. Beyond this dark tunnel, the rest of your life waits, and the Maples Family Law team is here to help you get there.  

 

Start Your Divorce: First Steps

Divorce is stressful, there’s no doubt, but it is manageable. And before you allow yourself to get too overwhelmed, take a step back to relax, breathe deep, and keep reading for five simple steps you can take to start your divorce in California. 

 

1. Talk to an Attorney

If you’re ready to divorce, one of the first things you should do, is talk to an attorney about your situation.

In California, there are many different types of divorce. From uncontested to mediation, all the way up to collaborative, and a contested divorce trial, an experienced family attorney will be able to help you decide which one will work best for you.

 

2. Get Organized

Regardless what type of divorce you decide to try, all of them are going to need the same personal information from you. So, while you’re deciding which attorney to hire, or whether or not legal separation is the preferable alternative, simplify your divorce, by gathering the needed documents right now. 

Some of the items you will need include:

As part of your split, the court will be dividing all marital property between the two of you. Hence, if there’s anything that belongs to you as separate property, you should also make sure you have the necessary proof to support your claims.    

Keep in mind that—in addition to being illegal—it’s also extremely difficult to hide assets during divorce. Courts don’t look kindly on this, so it’s best not to try. 

 

3. File a Petition

A divorce doesn’t officially kick off until you file a petition. This document essentially notifies the court of your intent to break your marriage contract, and requests they submit a final ruling. 

You or your attorney will need to pick up the divorce petition form at your local courthouse. To fill it out, you will need a lot of the information you gathered in the previous step. Once complete, your or your attorney can return it (and all supporting documents) to your clerk. 

While some people abhor the idea of being the first one to ask for divorce, there are actually some benefits to being the first one to file

 

4. Notify Your Spouse

Once you’ve filed your petition, the next step is to notify your spouse that you’ve initiated a divorce. While you might be tempted to just send a simple text, California law requires proper service. This involves having an outside party hand-deliver divorce papers.

After receiving papers, your spouse will have thirty days to respond to your petition, giving you a short respite. However, even if they respond sooner, you still won’t be able to get a quick divorce

 

5. Prepare to Wait

You and your spouse might be certain about your split, but California courts need a little more convincing. 

Humans beings are emotional, rash creatures, and we aren’t always at our best in the heat of an argument. Because of that, all divorcing couples must endure a mandatory, six-month waiting period, before the court will hear their case.

Try not to think of this as a punishment, but as a way to be absolutely sure that divorce is right for you. You can also utilize the time to engage in any discovery needed for your hearing, and to help the rest of your family prepare for the upcoming changes.  

 

Start Your Divorce: Helping a Child Cope

Of course, knowing the technical steps of how to start your divorce is one thing, but dealing with emotions is an entirely different matter. Especially when it comes to parents and young children.

At Maples Family Law, we understand the concerns parents face—how you worry about custody, child support, and the negative impact a hypothetical divorce might have on your child. You carry the heavy burden of trying not to project your emotions onto your child, all the while it feels like a bomb just went off inside your chest. 

It’s no wonder you’re stressed. 

However, when it comes to your kids, it’s probably not as bad as you might think. Here are a few things for worried parents to keep in mind, when starting a divorce. 

 

Your Child’s Interests Are Guiding the Decisions

The state of California is worried about your family, too, and easing the impact of divorce on your child is one of their top priorities.

When making decisions that affect minors, your judge will put the best interest of your child above all other considerations. 

 

The Right Team Matters

There is no “I” in “Team,” and when it comes to divorce, it can be hard to see the playing field without the right perspective. This is why hiring the right child custody attorney is so important. 

A trusted lawyer can help you and your spouse:

  1. Avoid common custody pitfalls;
  2. Mediate custody matters outside of court;
  3. Reach a dynamic parenting plan that meets your family’s unique needs; and,
  4. Develop an effective co-parenting strategy, that will help your child adjust your family’s new normal as smoothly as possible.

 

Help is Available

Children are amazingly resilient. Most of the time they bounce back from these emotional heartbreaks much better than even the adults do.

That being said, it doesn’t hurt to give them an outlet to work through emotions, or let them talk to a therapist. Extra help is always available, and you don’t have to do this alone. 

 

Divorce Attorneys in California

For more questions about how to start your divorce, call the team at Maples Family Law at (209) 989-4425, or get in touch online. While divorce might be an end, it’s also a beginning—the start of the rest of your life—and it’s one we want to help you reach.

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How to File for Divorce

If you’re ready to end your marriage, you’re probably wondering how to file for divorce. The process can be daunting, and with so many different ways to secure a split, it can be tough to know where to start.

Luckily, it’s not a process you have to do alone. 

Here’s everything you need to know about how to file for divorce in California, and how the team at Maples Family Law can help you.  

How to File for Divorce: The Process 

The first think you need to know about filing for divorce in California, is that you live in a no-fault divorce state. This means that—unlike in days gone by—you don’t have to assign blame in order to break up your marriage. Furthermore, neither spouse needs to secure the permission of the other. The only requirement is irreconcilable differences. 

This is a massive simplification of a process that used to turn divorce court into a circus of false accusations and perjury. In lieu of these archaic notions, couples can now obtain a divorce without subjecting themselves (or their children) to a needlessly contentious environment, creating a much healthier transition, overall. 

So, now that you know fault isn’t a requirement, here are the next steps to take when filing for divorce in California.

 

 1. Talk to an Attorney 

For most people, it just makes sense to work with a lawyer. Whether you’ve been married a long time or just a little while, there aren’t very many divorce scenarios where a couple is better off by not hiring personal representation. 

This is because divorce law is complicated, and on your own, it’s too easy to make mistakes and give up essential rights. Some of which can be extremely expensive—if not impossible—to reverse. 

An experienced attorney can help you avoid these potential pitfalls, and guide you through complex issues like child custody, spousal support, and property division without mishap, making their services well worth added hourly expense

In general, you should only forgo representation if you have no significant assets or debt, and don’t have children. Even then, it’s still wise to have an attorney review your uncontested divorce agreement before filing. 

 

 2. Check Residency Requirements 

Whether or not you choose to hire an attorney, you will still need to meet both state and county residency requirements in order to file for divorce. 

In California, you must have lived in the state for at least six months. Residents of San Joaquin County will also need to have lived there for at least three.

 

3. Determine Which Type of Divorce Will Work Best for You 

As we mentioned above, there isn’t just one way to divorce. Indeed, contrary to what Hollywood might have you believe, a high stakes court trial isn’t the only want to secure a split. Indeed, not only can you dissolve a marriage outside of court, but it’s almost always preferable to litigation. 

Some of these out-of-court methods include: 

For those who aren’t quite ready for the permanence of a full-on divorce, California also allows couples to negotiate a legally-binding agreement through legal separation.

The method that’s best for you will depend on a number of individualized factors. Some of these might be whether or not you have children, how amicable your breakup is, the amount of property and debt you have, and whether or not you have a valid prenuptial agreement

If you aren’t sure, a Maples Family Law attorney can help you determine which might be best for your situation. 

4. File the Correct Forms 

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In order to initiate a divorce, you will need to file a petition for divorce with the court, as well as a property declaration, and paperwork about child custody and visitation.

This is where having an attorney will come in handy. A lawyer will not only make sure you have the correct forms, but also that they are filled out accurately, ensuring your divorce process isn’t held up by faulty paperwork. Your attorney will also file these documents with the county clerk on your behalf, freeing up your mental energy for more important things. 

If submitting paperwork on your own, keep in mind that you will be responsible for paying for any filing fees associated with these documents. 

Once tendered, the county clerk will give you (or your attorney) copies of all your forms with a stamp that says “Filed.” In addition to whatever your attorney keeps, make sure to always retain copies for your own personal record, as well. 

5. Ensure Proper Service 

From filing, it’s then time to tell your spouse you’ve started the legal process. Forget texts, phone calls, and snapchat, though, because telling your spouse you’ve just filed for divorce requires a little more formality than a simple Facebook message. 

In California, proper service requires someone to deliver physical copies of all divorce paperwork to your spouse, usually in person, face to face (though, there are some limited exceptions). As a party to the case, you cannot be the one to deliver the paperwork, however the qualifications are pretty open, and there’s usually no need to hire a professional process server.

A qualified server must: 

  1. Be over eighteen; 
  2. Not a party to the case; 
  3. Serve paperwork within the proper time frame; 
  4. Fill out a proof of service form; and,
  5. Return the proof of service form to you, so that you (or your attorney) can file it with the court. 

This step is essential. Without proper service, the court could potentially dismiss your whole case (another point for team “Just Hire an Attorney, Already”). 

 

What Happens After Service 

What comes after these five steps really depends how your spouse responds to your petition. For partners who are capable of constructive communication, a few sessions of out-of-court mediation is probably all that’s needed to iron out important issues. In contrast, couples with bad feelings, strongly opposing views, or vast amounts of property or marital debt might not be able to settle without a trial.

No matter what the emotional environment of your divorce is, however, once your petition has been properly filed and served, your spouse will have thirty days to respond. And—we should note—this isn’t really a deadline you want to be messing with.

Failure to Respond 

Just like the state of California can’t keep you married if you don’t want to be, neither can your spouse, and failure to respond to properly served divorce paperwork won’t stall out the proceedings. Instead, it will just put your spouse in danger of defaulting.

In a default divorce, the court essentially treats your petition like an uncontested divorce, and proceeds as if your spouse had agreed to all the terms. Which is great, if you’re the petitioner, but not so much if you’re on the other end. 

Hence, if you’re thinking about trying to stay married by not responding to service, think again. This tactic won’t work, and it most certainly is not in your best interest. 

Temporary Orders

If you are worried about retaliation from your spouse during this thirty-day waiting period, talk to your attorney. If necessary, they can petition the court for a temporary order

This type of order can be tailored to your situation. It can both prohibit your spouse from committing certain behavior, and set down guidelines to govern things like childcare, bills, and spousal support. Protecting you, your children, and your assets while your divorce is pending.  

 

Do You Need to Talk to a Lawyer About How to File for Divorce? 

If you are getting a divorce, give yourself a break, and let an attorney handle the stress of paperwork, processing, and deadlines. Not only can they relieve you of this stress, but an experienced family law attorney can also refer you to a therapist, offer valuable, case-specific legal advice, and much more.

For more questions about how to file for divorce in California, call us at (209) 989-4425 or contact us online, and let the team at Maples Family Law help guide you through this complex transition as smoothly as possible. 

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What is Collaborative Divorce in California?

If you’re considering collaborative divorce in California, here’s what you need to know.

What is Collaborative Divorce in California?

Collaborative divorce is the same across the board, whether you’re in California or another state. A collaborative divorce is one in which both parties work together to reach a settlement that everyone finds reasonably satisfying. It’s a give-and-take negotiation process that results in the couple – not the judge – making the final decisions on big issues.

Why Do People Choose Collaborative Divorce in California?

Some people choose the collaborative divorce route because it’s faster, cheaper, and in most cases, less stressful than litigation. In a divorce where the couple can’t reach their own agreements, there’s a lot of back-and-forth between attorneys – and there are court dates where all the parties and their lawyers have to show up and argue before the judge. The judge makes a final decision, and while judges do their best to be fair and impartial, someone is bound to leave the courtroom feeling like they’ve lost.

The best way to get what you want from your divorce is to collaborate with your spouse.

What is Collaborative Divorce in CaliforniaWhat About Mediation?

You can use mediation in a collaborative divorce. Mediation is often a great way to help people see eye-to-eye (or at least find some common ground) during divorce, and working with a mediator can take some of the pressure off each of you because the mediator is your go-between.

Related: Divorce mediation checklist

Do You Have Your Own Lawyer in a Collaborative Divorce in California?

You hire your own attorney and your spouse hires his or her own attorney in a collaborative divorce. Your attorney will be watching out for your best interests along the way, and that means she’ll encourage you to define what you want from your divorce and see what you can use to negotiate to get it.

How to Reach Agreements With Your Spouse

When you’re divorcing the person you’ve been married to, it might feel like cooperation is the last thing you want to do. However, because it’s usually the best way to get what you want from your divorce, it’s in your best interest – and your soon-to-be ex’s best interest – to try to cooperate as best you can. You’ll have to decide on major issues, including child custody (if you have children), spousal support if one of you is asking for it, and how to divide your property fairly.

Negotiation is part common sense and part tact. When you want something, you can’t demand it – you have to plan carefully and be tactful in your delivery. (That’s why many people choose to use a mediator who can carry messages back and forth while smoothing out the process.) You have to set ground rules for negotiation before you start – and you and your spouse both have to agree to them, too. Some good ground rules for negotiation include:

  • Be prepared to give and take
  • Be cordial to each other and check your feelings at the door
  • Avoid ultimatums
  • Avoid giving each other deadlines
  • Stay cool – don’t let your emotions get the best of you

Your attorney can help you with the finer points, too. The bottom line is that you need to treat divorce negotiations like a business transaction – essentially, that’s what this type of negotiation is.

Related: 13 divorce negotiation tips you can use today

How to Know if Collaborative Divorce is Right for You

Collaborative Divorce in California - Maples Family LawCollaborative divorce isn’t for everyone. It may not be a good idea if you’ve experienced domestic violence, for example, or you have other issues that will prevent you from cooperating with your spouse.

If you’re thinking about pursuing a collaborative divorce in California, your best bet is to talk to your lawyer. She’ll ask you some questions and help you determine whether you and your spouse are good candidates for these types of negotiations.

We welcome the opportunity to answer your questions about divorce negotiation and issues such as custody, child supportspousal support, and the divorce process.

Call us at (209) 546-6870 for a divorce case evaluation. You’ll talk to an experienced Stockton divorce lawyer who can give you the advice you need to begin moving forward.

 

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Types of Divorce

In the state of California, there are several “types” of divorce – but they all lead to one thing: the dissolution of your marriage. The types of divorce people discuss usually refer to the process that leads to the divorce decree.

Types of Divorce in California

When people talk about the different types of divorce, they’re generally referring to things like:

  • Fault-based and no-fault divorce
  • Uncontested divorce
  • Contested divorce
  • Collaborative divorce

Let’s take a deeper look at each of these types of divorce.

Fault-Based and No-Fault Divorce

Types of Divorce in CaliforniaCalifornia is a no-fault divorce state, which means you don’t have to prove that one party or the other did something wrong in order to end your marriage. Instead, you simply have to tell the court that you and your spouse can no longer remain married because you have irreconcilable differences.

A lot of people make the mistake of thinking that a spouse’s mess-up – like infidelity, for example – will have an impact on the outcome of the divorce. However, that’s not true. Cheating won’t affect the way the courts decide to divide your property or anything else, except in very rare circumstances (such as if your spouse spent all your family’s money on his or her fling, or if your spouse engaged in sexual acts in front of your children).

Related: Should you divorce a cheating spouse?

Uncontested Divorce

An uncontested divorce is one in which both parties are able to agree to all – or at least most – of the major issues involved. That includes things like:

The Main Types of Divorce in CaliforniaSometimes couples are able to agree to these things through mediation (which can be part of a collaborative divorce, as well), but sometimes they go back-and-forth without assistance and reach agreements on all the major issues on their own.

In an uncontested divorce, when both spouses agree on big issues, the judge will generally sign off on the couple’s arrangement – as long as it’s fair to both parties and the children involved. If it’s not fair to everyone (at least reasonably fair, that is), the judge isn’t going to agree and will most likely tell the parties to reach a new agreement or make decisions for the couple.

Related: What is divorce mediation?

Contested Divorce

A contested divorce is one in which the parties can’t reach agreements on the important issues. For example, if a couple is fine with dividing property but can’t agree on who gets the kids and when, the custody part of the divorce is contested.

It’s almost always better for couples to reach these important decisions on their own. If you and your spouse can’t agree, you’ll end up forcing the judge to decide – and usually, that happens after spending a lot of time in court (and a lot of money on lawyer’s fees). Litigating is typically more stressful than dealing with your spouse for a limited amount of time, too.

However, there are some cases in which it’s absolutely necessary to litigate. When one spouse is completely uncooperative and won’t budge (and won’t work with a mediator), for example, you don’t have a choice. In that case, you need an exceptionally tough Stockton divorce attorney in your corner.

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Collaborative Divorce

Collaborative divorce, while it’s not right for everyone, is the type of divorce that leaves both parties feeling reasonably satisfied with the outcome. In a collaborative divorce, the two spouses agree to work together to find solutions for all the major issues. Sometimes they work with mediators, and sometimes they don’t – but the bottom line is that a collaborative divorce requires input and a lot of give-and-take from both parties.

Related: Divorce mediation checklist

Do You Need to Learn More About These Types of Divorce?

If you’re in Stockton and you’re considering divorce – or if your spouse has already filed for divorce – we may be able to help you.

Call us right now at (209) 546-6870 to schedule a consultation with divorce attorney Anna Maples. We’ll answer your questions about child custody, child support and other matters, as well as refer you to local professionals if you need help that we can’t provide, such as divorce counseling or asset management.

 

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5 High-Asset Divorce Mistakes You Can’t Afford to Make

High-asset divorces can be incredibly contentious – and unfortunately, when there’s a lot of back-and-forth, people make mistakes. But making a mistake in a high-asset divorce can cost you for the rest of your life, so it’s important that you’re aware of the potential pitfalls and that you know how to steer clear to protect your assets.

Check out these five high-asset divorce mistakes so you know how to protect yourself – and your future.

5 High-Asset Divorce Mistakes: What NOT to Do

The most common high-asset divorce mistakes we see in our offices include things like:

  • Letting emotions rule over logic
  • Making rush decisions just to get the divorce over with
  • Hiding assets from one spouse
  • Failing to consider tax consequences
  • Going straight to litigation rather than negotiation

Here’s what you need to know about each of these high-asset divorce mistakes.

High-Asset Divorce Mistake #1: Letting Emotions Rule Over Logic

High-Asset Divorce Mistakes - Emotions vs. LogicDivorce is an emotional process, whether it’s due to infidelity or anything else – and that can make it tough to make logical decisions. However, now is the most important time to focus on what’s most important: your future.

It’s not uncommon for one party in a divorce to feel guilty about what’s happening, but it’s a big mistake to let that guilt guide the decision-making process. For example, if you feel bad and agree to give your spouse double the spousal support he or she would ordinarily receive, or you decide to hand over more than half your marital assets, you’re cutting into your own future.

On the other side of the coin, you can’t use the court system to exact revenge on your spouse. Divorce is a legal process, and if you try to use the legal system to get back at your ex for what he or she has done, it’s more than likely going to backfire on you.

Related: Should you divorce a cheating spouse?

High-Asset Divorce Mistake #2: Making Rush Decisions

High-Asset Divorce Mistake - Rush DecisionsIn many cases, both parties just want the divorce to end – and they’re willing to make less-than-informed decisions in an effort to wrap things up quickly. There are several reasons people want to rush through divorce, such as hoping the divorce will attract less media attention or simply wanting to be done with a spouse they can’t stand any longer.

Unfortunately, though, you can’t rush through a divorce and cover all your bases. You need to take the time to avoid making serious mistakes that will cost you long after your divorce is final.

Related: Divorce: It’s more than just a legal process

High-Asset Divorce Mistake #3: Hiding Assets

High-Asset Divorce Mistake - Hiding AssetsIn some cases, one spouse hides assets from the court so he or she doesn’t have to split them. California is a community property state, which means the assets you accumulate during your marriage – in most cases, anyway – belong to both spouses.

Hiding assets can get you into serious hot water with the courts – and in addition to the court finding out about those assets and dividing them anyway, you’ll lose your credibility. The majority of hidden assets are eventually discovered during the divorce process.

Related: How does a premarital agreement affect your divorce?

High-Asset Divorce Mistake #4: Failing to Consider Tax Consequences

High-Asset Divorce Mistake - Tax ConsequencesDivorce changes your financial situation – sometimes drastically. Most of the financial transactions that take place during divorce have tax consequences, including the division of retirement accounts and the sale of homes, vehicles and other property.

Your attorney may suggest that you hire a tax professional or another financial expert to help you understand the tax consequences of the financial decisions you make now.

Related: Dividing retirement assets in a divorce

High-Asset Divorce Mistake #5: Going Straight to Litigation

For most people – even in high-asset divorces – negotiation is the way to go. You may not mind spending money on attorney’s fees through litigation, particularly if it means you’re going to “win,” but the vast majority of people who negotiate their own settlements end up being far more satisfied with the outcome than those who litigated in court.

When you and your spouse reach agreements on the major issues surrounding your divorce, including child custody and property division, your divorce will go faster and be less stressful for everyone involved. If you and your spouse can’t reach agreements on your own, your attorney might suggest that you work with a mediator who can help.

Related: What is divorce mediation?

Need to Avoid These Costly High-Asset Divorce Mistakes?

We welcome the opportunity to answer your questions about mediation and divorce-related issues such as custody, child supportspousal support, and the divorce process.

Call us at 209-546-6870 for a divorce case evaluation. You’ll talk to an experienced Stockton divorce lawyer who can give you the advice you need to begin moving forward.

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Parentage in California – The Law & Implications of…

When a party initiates a “paternity case”, which is synonymous with a “parentage case”, the Court is tasked with issuing an order determining the “legal parents” of a child. As we will discuss below, this is not always the biological parents of the child. A Court order stating that an individual is a “legal parent” of a child has far reaching implications. While this is hardly an exhaustive list, the “legal parent” of a child is obligated to provide financial support for their child, they can provide their child with life insurance or health insurance, their child gains the right to inherit, and the “legal parent” is able to access their child’s medical records and history.

The simplest situation arises when a child is born to a couple during their marriage, in this case parentage is usually not an issue. There is a “conclusive presumption” that a child born to a couple during marriage is the child of both spouses; this “conclusive presumption” operates to establish parentage as a matter of law in most cases. A few examples of when the “conclusive presumption” applies include:

  1. At the time the child was conceived or born, the father was married to the child’s mother;
  2. At the time the child was conceived or born, the father had attempted to marry the child’s mother, but the marriage was invalid for some legal deficiency;
  3. After the child was born, the father married the child’s mother and either
    1. Agreed to have his name on the child’s birth-certificate; or
    2. Agreed to support the child
  4. After the child was born, the father openly treated the child as his own; this is referred to as “parentage by estoppel.”

The situation becomes more complicated when a child is born to an unmarried couple. In the case of children born out of wedlock, the Court will need to issue an Order determining the “legal parents” of the child.

The most complicated situation arises where a child is born to a marriage, but the spouse is not the biological parent of that child; that is beyond the scope of this article. This article will briefly discuss the law & implications surrounding being a “legal parent.”

What Does it Mean to “Establish Parentage”?

There are two avenues of establishing parentage: (1) A party may seek an order from the Court stating who the “legal parents” are, or (2) the parties may sign a “declaration of Paternity”, which states which individuals are the “legal parents” of a child. The most common situation that arises is where a child was born to a couple out of wedlock.

Example: Fred Father is not married to Monica Mother when Dayna Daughter is born. At this point in time, Dayna’s “legal parent” is Monica. This remains true even if Fred can prove he is Dayna’s biological father. At this point, Fred cannot provide Dayna with the family-benefits he may have earned through his employment, while Monica can. Fred will not have any legal rights or responsibilities relating to Dayna until he has “established parentage.”

Taking the example above a step further, let’s assume Fred and Monica had a less-than-friendly breakup, and Monica does not want Fred to be involved in Dayna’s life. Without establishing parentage, Fred has no claim to custody, visitation, or child support. The Court must first establish parentage (note that Fred can request an order for child support, custody, and/or visitation as part of claim to establish parentage). A party seeking to establish the parentage of an individual who is unwilling to admit that they are the parent of a child can seek, and obtain, a Court order requiring the alleged mother, father, and child to submit to genetic testing.

Once the “legal parents” have been established, they have all the legal responsibilities and rights associated with being a parent. This includes, but is not limited to:

  1. The right to request visitation (also referred to as “parenting time”) orders so that they may legally visit their child;
  2. The right to request custody orders;
  3. The obligation to pay child support;
  4. The obligation to pay ½ of the health-care (uninsured health-care) costs of the child; and
  5. The obligation to pay ½ of the child-care costs of a child, provided those costs were incurred as a result of the parent who has custody going to work or school.

It bears emphasizing that if you are the “legal parent” of a child, you are legally obligated to support that child. It is a punishable offense to fail to support your child and may have a significant impact on other aspects of your life (i.e., obtaining a passport).

Why Should I “Establish Parentage”?

Having identified parents is important for a child’s psychological well-being, among other things. In addition to the psychological benefit to the child, “establishing parentage” entitles the child to privileges and rights, including:

  1. The right to receive financial support from two (2) parents;
  2. Legal documentation, which identifies the child’s parents;
  3. Health insurance coverage from either parent;
  4. Life insurance coverage from either parent; and
  5. The legal right to inheritance from both parents

In addition to the benefits to the child mentioned above, “establishing parentage” allows the Court to make numerous Orders benefitting one or both “legal parents.” These orders include the ability to obtain reimbursement for birth and pregnancy expenses.

It is an unfortunate reality, but sometimes people do not want to pay support for their children, without “establishing parentage” the Courts simply do not have the authority to force them to make payments. To answer the question posed above, “Why should I establish parentage?” the answer is “to protect yourself, and to protect your child.”

How Do I Establish Parentage?

For purposes of this article, there are two (2) methods of “establishing parentage” when the “conclusive presumption” discussed above do not apply:

  1. Obtaining a Court Order; or
  2. Signing a Voluntary Declaration of Paternity

The Voluntary Declaration of Paternity is an official California form, which establishes the signing parties as the child’s “legal parent.” This form follows general contract law, in that the signature must be voluntary; that means defenses such as duress, fraud, and mistake could theoretically undo the effect of a Voluntary Declaration of Paternity. The purpose of the Voluntary Declaration of Paternity is to legally establish the identity of a child’s parents, including the rights and obligations associated with being a parent, when the parents of the child are unmarried. A properly executed Voluntary Declaration of Paternity has the same legal effect as an order from the Court “establishing parentage”; the benefit of taking this route is avoiding Court and the costs associated with going to Court.

How Do I Dispute Parentage and Genetic Testing?

Unfortunately, it has become increasingly common for the mother of a child to tell a man that he is the father of that child, even if it is unclear whether that is the case. There are an infinite number of reasons a mother might do this, ranging from the benign (the mother honestly believes the man is the father of the child) to the fraudulent (the mother knows the man is not the father, but believes the child’s life will be better if the man is obligated to support them). The attorneys at Maples Family Law believe that more often than not, this is an honest mistake.

When the male who has been informed that he is a father has doubts that he is the father, they have the right to request genetic testing to discern whether that is the case. Deoxyribonucleic acid (“DNA”) is a chain of nucleotides, which carry the genetic information to determine the development, growth, functioning, and reproduction of all living organisms on earth; they are also unique to each human being. A child receives DNA from both their biological mother, as well as their biological father. A DNA test requires a DNA sample from the mother, the alleged father, and the child. Many people believe the DNA test requires blood, however since saliva also contains an individual’s DNA, a simple cotton swab (a Q-tip for example) is sufficient to conduct the test; however, this test must be conducted at an approved location (you cannot take the DNA sample on your own, and rely on that sample to prove, or disprove, parentage).

If the parties utilize the Department of Child Support Services (“DCSS”) to perform the DNA test, there is generally no fee for either of the parents.

Here at Maples Family Law, we understand that “establishing parentage” is incredibly important for several reasons. It is important to your child to know who their parents are and receive the support that they are legally entitled to, which will provide them the best opportunities to grow up to be a successful and productive member of society. For the mother “establishing parentage” is important to obtain support in the undeniably expensive task of raising a child. For the father, “establishing parentage” is important either to obtain support for raising a child, or to obtain the rights associated with a parent so they can take an active role in their child’s development. Regardless of why “establishing parentage” is important to you, the attorneys at Maples Family Law are ready, willing, and able to assist you in pursuing your goals.

Divorce

Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) – A More Peaceful Path…

When people think of dissolution, they typically think of two attorneys battling head-to-head on behalf of their clients, and that is frequently the case. This, in turn, typically causes significant stress for the would-be ex-spouses. It is a frightening prospect to essentially have your entire life placed on trial in an effort to determine: (1) who should have custody over your children, or (2) how assets should be distributed.

Not all dissolutions need to be combative. In fact, there are a number of less confrontational options that are beneficial to both parties. Once such option is known as “mediation.” Mediation utilizes the services of a disinterested third party, known as a mediator, to facilitate a mutually agreeable result on key contested issues in a dissolution.

  1. What Does A Mediator Do?

A key distinction between a trial and a mediation is that a mediator is not a judge; they do not make decisions or rulings. The mediators main function is to aid the parties in finding a middle ground on key issues, frequently highlighting portions of the issue that both parties appear to agree on. Once the parties know what issues they actually agree on, it is significantly easier to come to an agreement on the portions they disagree on.

A mediation is different from arbitration and trial in several key ways. Both an arbitration and a trial are adversarial in nature, and parties frequently introduce evidence mostly for the purpose of dragging one spouse’s name through the mud. In trial and arbitration, the arbitrator or judge does not, and typically cannot, meet with each party individually to get an understanding of their unique circumstances. Judges and arbitrators are simply too busy to meet with every person who enters their Courtroom and get to know them.

In contrast, a mediation is not adversarial; mud-slinging is ineffective since the goal is to reach an agreement. A mediator also has the freedom to hand-craft unique agreements, that are different from what a judge could create, taking into account the parties’ individual situations.

Finally, a mediator is very different from an attorney. Attorney’s have one job, and that job is to advocate for their client in an effort to obtain the best outcome for their client. An attorney does not, and should not, advocate for the other spouse, even if it may result in a resolution to the issues. A mediator however, has the sole function of aiding both spouses in reaching an agreement that identifies the major issues for each party and finds a reasonable compromise. A mediator is focused on the individuals’ best interest, whereas a trial is focused on the best outcome for one party or the other.

  1. What Are the Benefits of Mediation?

There are many advantages to utilizing mediation of arbitration or trial when seeking a dissolution. The benefits include significantly less harm to the children of the marriage, a substantially quicker resolution to the dissolution, and a final bill that falls far below the cost of hiring attorneys to engage in a long-drawn-out litigation.

  1. Children Benefit from Mediation

Engaging in mediation has significant benefits for the children of the parties seeking dissolution through mediation. As mentioned above, a dissolution in Court is a high-conflict ordeal, in which both parties seek to undermine the character of the other party in an effort to obtain the best outcome for themselves. Naturally, this creates significant hostilities between the parents, which the children will be forced to witness.

Mediation is usually far less stressful than going through the Court, which typically results in a more cordial and amicable relationship between the separating spouses. As such, children benefit from observing their parents talk, compromise, and ultimately agreeing on major issues. This is in stark contrast to having children watch their parents engage in a year long, raging fight, over things children generally do not understand.

Further, by learning to cooperate and talk through high-tension situations, parents are more likely to obtain joint-custody determinations when pursuing their dissolution through mediation.

  1. Mediations Typically Reach Resolution Much Faster Than Trial

In fact, litigation generally carries on for over a year before the case even goes to trial. Mediation can speed the litigation process up and provide a quick resolution. The parties are free to engage in mediation at any time, without requiring the Court to schedule it, which generally provides more flexibility for both parties.

  1. Mediation is Cost-Effective

Reaching a resolution to a dispute through litigation can be incredibly expensive to both parties. First, the parties are required to retain attorneys, who typically have a substantial hourly rate; these hourly costs can become overwhelming within weeks. This is true even with cases that settle fairly quickly, since settlements usually occur after “discovery” has been conducted – something that requires a substantial amount of time from the attorney (interrogatories, depositions, document review, etc.,). The costs increase even more quickly where the case is a complicated one, as more discovery will need to be done, more conversation with opposing counsel with have to occur, and a substantial number of motions will likely be filed.

Mediation offers the lowest-cost option for resolving disputes that would have cost substantially more if pursued through litigation. A primary reason for this, as mentioned above, is that mediation is typically resolved far more quickly than arbitration or litigation, this is true even when attorneys are involved.

  1. Conclusion

When seeking a dissolution, most people mistakenly believe that the only way to properly vindicate their rights is to retain a high-powered attorney and go to battle with their ex-spouse. This route creates even more conflict, which negatively impacts children and drives the cost of resolution through the roof. Further, litigation will likely drag on for years.

If you are considering dissolution, contact a skilled attorney who has conducted mediations before, and the benefits are endless. First, children will actually be befitted from observing how conflicts can be resolved peacefully. Second, the ordeal will end far more quickly. Finally, the costs of mediation are significantly less than a full-blown trial. Contact us today for a consultation at (209) 910-9865.

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What is Divorce Mediation?

If you’re like many people, you’ve heard of divorce mediation—but what is it, and would it be the right choice for you and your spouse?

What is Divorce Mediation?

Divorce mediation is a way for you and your spouse to come together and decide the outcome of your divorce. It includes hiring a mediator—a neutral third party to your case—whose only interest is helping you two find common ground.

The mediator will meet with you and your spouse to help you resolve issues you’ve been unable to resolve on your own. He or she won’t make the decisions for you (unlike the judge, who will make decisions for you if you can’t reach an agreement). Instead, your mediator will help you and your spouse determine the best possible outcome.

Why Some People Choose Mediation

When two spouses cannot agree on an issue—say, child custody—the judge will make a decision for them.

While judges do their best to be as fair and impartial as possible, the fact is that no judge knows your family the way that you and your spouse do. Your judge doesn’t know the special circumstances you have or whether you and your spouse are willing to compromise in some areas.

Unfortunately, when the judge decides an important issue like custody, one or both parties is likely to come away feeling as if they lost the fight.

However, people who participate in mediation work together to come up with a solution that’s best for the whole family—and studies have shown that mediation allows those people to come away feeling as if they (and, more importantly, their children) have won instead.

The Bottom Line on Mediation

Many people choose mediation because they really don’t want the judge to make important decisions for them, but at the same time, they’re unable to agree with each other.

Mediation is also less expensive than a court trial or a series of hearings is, and for the most part, most mediations end in a successful divorce where both parties are reasonably satisfied with the outcome.

How Does Divorce Mediation Work?

Mediation is confidential, and it relies on your (and your spouse’s) ideas to come up with resolutions to the issues you’re experiencing. Your lawyer will still be there to guide you and protect your rights, though, and you and your spouse are in complete control of the process.

Every mediator has his or her own approach, but generally, mediations follow similar processes. Your mediator will get background information from you and your spouse, and then you’ll both attend a meeting with the mediator. He or she will explain the “rules of the road” and tell you what you can expect from the process. You may also be asked to sign a form that says you promise to keep what’s said to yourself—and that you understand that the mediator won’t disclose the private details of your meetings in court later.

Do You Have to See Your Spouse for Mediation?

Sometimes you and your spouse will be negotiating across a table; sometimes the mediator will go back and forth between separate rooms to help you negotiate. You can always tell your mediator whether you’re comfortable being in the same room with your spouse (or if you’re not); the point is that your mediator wants to help you find common ground, and he or she will use the appropriate tactics to get you there.

Can Your Lawyer Go to Mediation With You?

If you want your Stockton divorce attorney to attend a mediation with you, talk to your mediator (and your lawyer). In many cases, these meetings don’t involve lawyers—but typically, they can if you feel it’s necessary.

Do You Need to Talk to a Divorce Lawyer in Stockton?

We welcome the opportunity to answer your questions about mediation and divorce-related issues such as custody, child support, spousal support, and the divorce process.

Call us at 209-910-9865 for a divorce case evaluation. You’ll talk to an experienced Stockton divorce lawyer who can give you the advice you need to begin moving forward.

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How to Have a “Successful” Divorce

Whether you’re simply thinking about ending your marriage or you’re ready to take action and get in touch with a Stockton divorce lawyer, you probably have more than a few concerns about how the process will play out—and whether you and your spouse will be able to reach fair agreements without causing too much collateral damage.

The fact is that you can have what’s known as a successful divorce. It’s not always an easy process, but the end result is that you and your spouse can both walk away feeling that it was fair and that you both won.

The secret?

Don’t look at divorce like a competition, a race, or something that you have to win.

Divorce is simply a way to end your marriage, and there aren’t supposed to be any “winners” or “losers” in the legal system.

How to Have a Successful Divorce

In order to have a successful divorce, you and your spouse have to be on the same page; you both have to look at it as a means to an end. If one spouse isn’t interested in collaborating and making the process as quick (and painless) as possible, it’s going to be extremely difficult to navigate the process.

How to Talk to Your Spouse About Having a Collaborative Divorce

Many people find that discussing collaborative divorce with a spouse is easier when it’s framed in terms of time or money. The simple fact is that when both spouses can agree on major points, their divorce will move faster and will cost less.

Finally, nobody knows your family like you do—or what will work best for them. You and your spouse are the most highly qualified when it comes to making decisions that will affect all of you; if you can’t agree, though, you’ll take those decisions out of your own hands and put them in the judge’s hands.

Should You Simply Give In to Your Spouse?

You don’t have to “give in” to your spouse’s demands in order to have a successful divorce. Instead, look at it as if you were negotiating a contract. Give-and-take is important in a successful divorce, so sit down with your attorney and determine what it is that you really want from your divorce. That way, your lawyer can help you negotiate your way through the process and make the best of the tough situation you’re in right now.

What if Your Spouse is Combative Instead of Cooperative?

Some people who begin the divorce process like they’re running toward combat eventually come around, but that’s not always the case.

If your spouse isn’t cooperative—or isn’t interested in participating in a collaborative divorce—you need tough representation in court. You need a lawyer who’s going to stand up for your rights and who isn’t afraid to speak up on your behalf.

Typically, the judge can tell when a spouse is trying to tilt the divorce’s outcome in his or her favor (or worse, trying to use the legal system for revenge). That’s not what the legal system is for, though, and the only purpose of our divorce courts is to dissolve marriages. Each judge is tasked with the heavy responsibility of ensuring that all Californians get a “fair shake” in court and that the legal system does justice to every citizen.

Do You Need to Talk to a Stockton Divorce Lawyer?

If you’re thinking about divorce and you have questions that an attorney can answer, if you’re ready to take the next step and file your paperwork, or if your spouse has already filed divorce paperwork, we can help you.

Call us at 209-910-9865 for a divorce case evaluation. You’ll talk to an experienced Stockton divorce lawyer who will answer your questions about child custody, child support, spousal support, or anything else that’s weighing on your mind. The sooner you call us, the sooner we’ll be able to begin developing the strategy that gets you and your family the best possible outcome.

 

 

Anna Y. Maples Maples Family Law



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